Many parents in unhappy marriages hesitate to consider divorce because they’re afraid the divorce will damage their children. While divorce certainly impacts most children emotionally, studies show that only a small percentage of the 1.5 million U.S. children whose parents divorce each year suffer serious, long-term effects. Moreover, research indicates that parental conflict plays a more significant role in its impact on children than the divorce itself. Here’s what you need to know. Continue reading →
The New Hampshire Supreme Court recently upheld a lower family court ruling requiring the daughter of divorced parents to attend public school per her father’s wishes, according to an article in The Nashua Telegraph. The order goes against the wishes of the girl’s mother, who has been homeschooling her daughter with a Christianity-based curriculum and wanted to continue doing so.
The Supreme Court noted that courts are reluctant to make decisions for families, such as where a child should attend school, and that courts are not equipped to say which type of schooling is best for every child. However, the court noted, when a child’s parents cannot agree on the best type of schooling for the child, the New Hampshire courts may step in to ensure that the child’s best interests come first.
The Supreme Court ruling upholds the decision of Laconia Family Court Marital Master Michael Garner, who ruled last year that full-time public school attendance was in the daughter’s best interests in this case. The Court recognized that both parents have an equal right to make decisions about their daughter’s schooling under New Hampshire law. Since the marital master’s decision did not violate either parent’s rights, according to the Supreme Court, it was allowed to stand.
Even couples who agree it’s time to end the marriage face a bumpy emotional road when it comes to splitting up their shared life. Fortunately, there are ways to help smooth out the process of divorce and take care of business without holding a permanent grudge, according to a recent column in The Huffington Post.
First, you need to be honest about your needs and wants. Make a clear list of your financial needs, which shared assets you want or need, and anything else that affects your divorce, such as your desires for custody or visitation. Share this list with an experienced divorce attorney before sharing it with your soon-to-be ex-spouse. While you cannot control their response, you can prevent misunderstandings that may lead to hurt feelings ‘“and unfair results”’ by stating clearly what you want up front.
Next, don’t tell your future ex-spouse they are to blame for the breakup of your marriage. If specific actions by them pushed you to file for divorce, share these with your attorney. Do not, however, dwell on your soon-to-be ex-spouse’s faults, either when talking to your spouse or to your family or friends. Instead, focus on achieving an equitable split in which you get what you need to support yourself and/or your children, if applicable.